Thursday, April 20, 2006

Lock down...

Every day I "imprison" my son behind the bars of his crib.

It was never quite so bad but that was before we took away his bottle. I was dead set against this wicked decision, but my husband stood firm. “He is old enough to be off the bottle”. I, however, was not done with the bottle.

Well, it is a good thing Mr. Lewandowski does not have to be home when the little guy naps because I practically have to bring out the tear gas to get him to bed. Actually, he just brings out the tears and the wailing and gnashing of teeth.

I hand him his cup of milk, let him fill his little belly and lovingly put him in his crib with a big stuffed monkey to hug. I gently stroke his hair and shut off the light. Each time I do this I get my hopes up that this time will be easy. It has actually happened a couple of times, though rarely.

After about 10 minutes of screaming my patience is nonexistent and I feel like I am a cruel enforcer of naptime. I know he is tired. I know I am tired. I know his sister is tired. Why does he fight it?

So, alone I sit in my office working wondering how long it will take for the little boy to fall asleep. Oh the guilt. It is almost too much to handle.

Wait until he is my age. He will jump at any opportunity to take a “Nanny-noo” (nap). I know I would.

Wednesday, April 12, 2006

Mary Dwelley - Rest in Peace

It is really difficult when someone you know dies.

It could be a family member, a friend or an acquaintance but it doesn’t matter how you know them, it is that they have made an impact on your life.

Mary Dwelley was the President of Feminists for Life of New York. That is how I knew her. She was also extremely active at her parish of St. Bridget’s and a tireless advocate for peace and justice causes. I knew her as the woman who wouldn’t quit when it came to saving the lives of unborn babies. She was amazing.

The first time I met Mary was when I was looking to make pro-life contacts in Upstate New York, as I had recently moved here with my husband and didn’t have the opportunity to meet many in the pro-life network. Mary came to my house and we talked over dessert and coffee and I remember her being so pleasant and giving me so much information.

Later on I started working with Mary with Feminists for Life. She was always helpful and pleasant and never wavered in her passion for the unborn. She was very blunt when it came to correcting me when I made mistakes. That kind of honesty is always hard to hear at first but a person can’t help but be grateful for the opportunity for growth. You knew that when dealing with Mary that she was a defender of life and skilled in the ability to make her point known, using emotion and reason.

I just talked to Mary a couple of days ago. She had a busy week preparing for Holy Week and was “up to my eyeballs…and still trying to do my taxes!” It is hard to believe she is gone.

Mary was killed in a car crash yesterday. She was only 57, much too young to leave us.

A truck crossed the center line and hit Mary's car when she died instantly.

The news showed a picture of the back of her car. The bumper sticker read:
Peace begins in the womb.
That was Mary, protecting the unborn, even until the end.

The blow to this community is overwhelming. There are so many who knew Mary on a personal level who must be devastated. Her family, no doubt, must be beside themselves with grief.

She was a faithful Catholic, a friend to Feminists, an ally to the unborn. How fitting it is that she is meeting God during Holy Week.

Please pray for her friends and family during this difficult time.

Please pray for Mary Dwelley, that her soul rests in peace.